WANT TO STOP FEELING BAD ABOUT YOURSELF? FEELING NERVOUS OR ANXIOUS?
Probably right now you might be in a place you do not like, and you are using escapism actions to face that.
For some it will be playing video games, watching porn, eating junk foodβ¦you better than anyone know what you are doing to escape certain feelings.
The question is:
What are you using as an escape to avoid feeling bad about yourself?
To break that pattern is not easy there are no magic pills, it is a constant work in progress.
First, start thinking more about your goals. Create clear reasons to do all of them.
Pitch your perfect life, pitch the perfect version of yourself, the one where you are good enough, ready for everything.
Then start asking yourself what's the difference between the person you are right now and the person you want to be.
What are you lacking?
What goals should you accomplish in order to be that person and start writing them down.
Have measurable goals so you can check on your progress.
Then ask yourself from the person I am today how can I get to that person I imagine?
What skills do I need to get?
At the same time start by getting to know yourself better. Bring your pains into your awareness.
Why do I feel this in this moment?
Go deeper.
What is triggering me to feel in a certain state?
Why do I feel this way?
Ask yourself several times this question why, why and why?
Identify the moments you react disproportionality to the situation like feeling anxious to approach and other stress states.
Check what triggers you.
Identify the sensation and the thought that is coming up and then ask what the other situations were where you had this kind of sensations.
What was the previous time that you felt that?
And before that time when did you feel that?
Until you find when was the first time you felt the exact fear that you are feeling right now.
Try to meditate everyday:
Think about what are you escaping.
Think about the sensation that you feel, when you feel bad.
When was the previous time that you were feeling this too?
Breath into the sensations that are provoking your escapism.
Accept them and let them go.
You need to do this every day and have no expectations of when this will work and make the feeling go away. There are only benefits from doing it. Then use the following breathing exercise when you are feeling this: 6 seconds breathe in, 3 seconds hold, 6 seconds exhale doing βshhhβ sound and letting go of the feeling, 3 seconds hold and again.
Hope this is helpful for you to apply during this quarantine times
Peace out π